"The distance of the road to success becomes shorter as soon as you take the first step."
Here we go, a New Year, most likely you are taking a moment to review 2017, and to smile at all those “New Year resolutions” that are back on your list, planning what you would like to accomplish in 2018.
The girl in the picture is my niece Annabella when she was 2 years old … This is one of my favorite pictures and what I see in that moment, captured by the camera, is what I desire for me in 2018. A year full field with new adventures, new opportunities, new possibilities. A year where fear is what will propel me, by feeling stronger and braver. A year where I step out of my current comfort zone.
When I think what would be the reasons that my New Year resolutions have failed in the past, I can think of so many excuses, stories, explanations, and B.S. why they did. Today I am changing my approach to that question, and instead of asking “Why” I did not accomplish my past New Year resolutions I am asking “What for” I failed in achieving them.
Few of my past New Year’s resolutions have been (many have made the list several times)…
· Read at least 10 books this year (small books of course).
· Increase my vocabulary and improve my pronunciation (English is my second language)
· Do 3 man’s pull ups (only 3 and still cannot do one)
· Practice Yoga.
· Filled taxes before April 15th.
· Work with underprivileged children … this one I have accomplished!!! YES!!!
Every January 1st I will take time to visualize how the upcoming 365 days would look for me, and the conversation will sound pretty much the same… this will be the year I really, finally, for sure, will get more organized, will take those books off the bookshelf, will make Veronica proud (my accounting angel) by keeping my Quick Book updated, will get back to running and will do at least one yoga class per week. This year I will expand, grow, improve, educate, the possibilities are endless. And even though, yes, each year I am a better Valentina, many of the New Year resolutions stayed in my thoughts on in a piece of paper.
So today I asked my self… “What for" what were the hidden purposeful reasons for me NOT to accomplish the New Year resolutions? What it is at the core? I got curious… not about the reasons, the why, but more about the “what for”. The effect or outcome I seek by NOT achieving them.
So after peeling the onion, as we can say, I was brave to face what was under all those layers... comfort and fear. These two words were my “what for”. Comfort to stay in the known, day a day, in my save place. Comfort feels all cozy and warm and sometimes that is all what we, I need, but I know, if I stay any longer I will begin to get bored, lazy, content and flat. And even though I have accomplished a lot in the last few years, and perhaps in the eyes of others I have done so much, I know I did not push my own personal boundaries to my full potential. There is sooooooo much more of me to offer, to expand, to create, and I have allowed comfort to come and stay. And the answer to the question what for? Is… to stay attached to what it was, to what I was, to what I had. I can share that today I am getting out of my comfort zone. My “What for” is to discover what is waiting for me, to stop postponing reaching my goals, to take some risks by doing what scares me, and to understand who I am truly are.
As I said earlier, I also found fear underneath the onion layers. In the past, fear gave me a sense of it is OK NOT to reach my goals. Gave me the “why”, the reasons, excuses, stories, and the people to blame. When did I ask myself what if you are successful? What if you might make a huge difference in our community? What if you need to move outside Fort Lauderdale? What if you speak to many?... In English? Deep inside of me, I felt fear! I discovered that success terrified me. I also felt overwhelmed with the thought that I have infinite potential to inspire, touch, and educate thousands of people. Felt that way because I KNOW I have that powerful gift inside of me. Sounds crazy, I know.
Because making a huge difference in our community is “what for” I was created to do, I am meant to do, and I was put on this earth, even if it is a huge difference in one person’s life.
In 2018 I choose fear to be the fuel of my ‘What for”, my dreams and ambitions. NOW is the time to start acting on them while taking my life to a whole new level. I am open to opportunities and I am willing to do what it takes to pursue my dreams. Without a list of New Year’s resolutions, without any expectation, without reflecting upon the wrongdoings over the last years, without attachments of what was, without following traditions.
In 2018 I AM inspired by my niece, by this picture.
I AM moving out my comfort zone.
I AM welcoming fear as my ally.
I AM adventurous.
I AM leaning into possibilities.
I AM open arms to all what is available for me.
I AM allowing people to help me.
I AM smiling to freedom. I AM creating new.
I AM unstoppable.
I AM enjoying this ride called LIFE.